When I was a young man – born 1958 in the US Midwest and reared latchkey by a single mother and 2 older sisters (and a baby brother) – the feminist movement was gaining speed, due in large part to the literal beatings or psychological abuse that wives had endured for generations previously. However, once women had the ability to gain their own money resources, independent of men, the need for marriage relationships in a mammon serving economic paradigm, was dwindling. (P.s: I'm egalitarian, not a feminist).
But for most of human time, all resources were gained by sweat labor. For females holding resources, and living among stronger males who could (and often would) physically overwhelm them; this meant that they needed a male around just to protect them from material losses, or rape or even death. But employment coupled with stronger laws against such behavior, is what drove the feminist movement, which shaped my mother and sisters, and by osmosis, me too!
I heard a metaphorical life-lesson that was a telling and chilling reality in my time: the beaten wife analogy. You see a wife out in public, and each time, she (either) has a black eye, or a broken bone, or some other physical sign of injury; however, when the husband is asked if he did this to his wife, he assures everyone that he loves his wife and would never harm her; that her visible injuries are due to her clumsiness. After way too many times, witnessing her injuries, and even though she too, assures everyone that it's her fault, which do you believe? What you hear, or what you see?
All women (with very rare exception), will believe that the husband is lying (and must lie really), knowing that he could go to jail, be criminalized, or lose child custody (if there are kids), if he confessed to the beatings. The wife too, knows of this outcome, and thus, for all intents and purposes ending her marriage, as it once was. Perhaps the wife comes from a poor family; is uneducated; is not able to support herself and offspring: She's in a conundrum and must compromise because of it.
The moral of the ditty is simple: Do you believe the words? Or the bruises and other physical signs of the beating? You see, there are many reasons that people lie outright, or bend truth to fit the narrative they believe is necessary to survive, or, just to get their way in life. But we are summarized, not in what we say or think or believe: We are what we do, and no more! Our action, and our inaction (e.g. not beating your spouse) is the sum of truth, and not what we say or even believe is true (1Co 13:1): Talk ain't cheap, it's free!
It does not even matter if that beaten wife believes that her husband loves her, and that his temper and subsequent acts of violence against her, are the result of his own abusive childhood. She too can justify or rationalize it all she wants, but in fact, she is a victim of spousal abuse. Any male human who truly Loves – and thus Loves his wife – would commit suicide on the very day that he thought it acceptable to beat his wife, thus avoiding the first such act of violence against her (or anyone). That's what Love is and does! Love is a verb!
The fruit-light (Matt 5:13-16; 7:17-20; 13:3-9) that is exhibited by the (infinitesimal & inconspicuous) Elect of YHVH, is that of first throwing the doors wide open to any and all, who openly claim any level of connection with the Creator of all, YHVH (1Pe 4:16-19); especially christendom here in these destined end-times. Secondly, we must expose the injustices all around us, perpetrated by the Godless, as well as the Godless-religious (Eph 5:6-11,12-17; 2Co 6:14-18).
We who Love because of YHVH in us, share in the only Love that is: YHVH Love! Humans are incapable of even comprehending YHVH Love, much less becoming YHVH Love: The Indwelling (of the) Holy Spirit is the only way to become Love. Once an individual comprehends Love, the paradigm of friendship changes, and universal Love overwhelms them.
All that is in the World created by humans, is corrupted: Earth is Sodom 2.0! From colonialism and slavery to nation-building, map lines and global natural resources, all now held by military force and the sinister manifestations of politics and economics, and indeed, the many other grotesque compromises of everything that existed from the Garden of Eden unto these end-times; humans have been on a rampage against their Creator via their onslaught against the YHVH creation, since our beginnings.
Earth is ultimately doomed. Only those who live out Faith in lifestyle, will be resurrected into eternal bodies, useful to YHVH upon the billions other inhabitable planets that dot the cosmos. But the vast majority of all accountable adults will not be resurrected (Matt 7:13-14,21-23), but left in the empty vacuum of deep outer space; far-far beyond all star matter and its light: Outer Darkness. We are what we do, and no more!
When the Son of Man shall come in His glory, and all the holy angels with Him, then He shall sit upon the throne of His glory. And before Him shall be gathered all nations, and He shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divides the sheep from the goats. And He shall set the sheep on His right hand, but the goats on the left. Then shall the King say unto them on His right hand: Come, you blessed of My Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was hungry, and you gave Me meat; I was thirsty and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger and you took Me in; naked and you clothed Me; I was sick and you visited Me; I was in prison and you came unto Me. Then shall the righteous answer Him, saying: Lord, when did we see You hungry and fed You? Or thirsty and gave You drink? When did we see You a stranger and took You in? Or naked and clothed You? Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and came unto You? And the King shall answer and say unto them: Verily I say unto you: Inasmuch as you have done it unto one of the least of these, My brethren, you have done it unto Me! Then shall He say also unto them on the left hand: Depart from Me, you cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels: For I was hungry and you gave Me no meat; I was thirsty and you gave Me no drink; I was a stranger and you took Me not in; naked and you clothed Me not; sick, and in prison, and you visited Me not. Then shall they also answer Him, saying: Lord, when did we see You hungry, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto You? Then shall He answer them, saying: Verily I say unto you; Inasmuch as you did it not, to one of the least of these, you did it not unto Me! And these shall go away into everlasting punishment, but the righteous into life eternal. (Matt 25:31-46)